Saturday, June 16, 2012



Daily Mood Quote
June 16, 2012

Never trust anyone who says, “Trust me, I'm your friend.” Actions speak louder than words.
~Unknown Author

My husband says this quote is harsh and to a small degree, I agree with him. But, for now this is how I feel and only time will heal the hurt that someone I once looked up too, trusted and admired (more than any member of my own family, the family I grew up with) created. I have forgiven people who have hurt me, or my family if it was an accident; but what this woman did was no accident, it was with malice- it was deliberate, intentional, and shameful. I wonder if theses are the lessons she teaches the children in her religious education program? Lessons like: It's okay to lie, cheat, spread rumors (without knowing the facts, asking the questions, or just simply ignoring the truth) about people, as long as you give money to the church, or go to confession each week. Is that what it takes today? Sorry to say this, but that is hypocrisy. Saying one thing but doing another. People tried to warn my husband and I about her, they tried to tell us she was a hypocrite, a liar, she said one thing but did another, was never a person of her word. They tried to tell us, but oh no, we didn't believe them. In fact we vigorously defended her. She was a friend, a trusted friend. Well, “with friends like that, who needs enemies” right?

Now, back to our discoveries... Upon entry of the home through the front door, we noticed that the house was dirty, walls had been scraped up, carpets had been stained and vinyl in entry way was scraped and torn. There was also a yellow stain on the floor, where the entry way carpet used to be. Who lets a carpet sit that long? This was at first glance. Then we proceed to the laundry room and found no reason for concern (yet). Ran both the washer and the dryer, they seemed to both work for the brief tryout.

The hallway from the entry way has a closet, filled with things that belonged to the previous tenant, our new landlord. This hallway which lead to the kitchen includes a doorway to the laundry room and a doorway to the garage, which has a screen door on it (unusual) but nevertheless both doors work, although latch is rusty and loose on the screen door. There were dirty marks and scratches from the move out on the walls and floors. The vinyl flooring in front of the refrigerator has dark scrapes and tears.

We then moved to the kitchen, and noticed on the counter top there was only one remote for the garage door opener (this is a concern because normally an automatic garage door has two openers). A microwave was also left on the counter, this was be placed in the garage for the landlord, who said she would return for her things. We continued with the inspection and noticed the refrigerator was the same refrigerator we saw several months earlier. When you opened the refrigerator doors (noticed during the viewing of the home several months earlier) the bottom was still torn up, rusting and separating from inside the refrigerator and freezer doors. The bottom of the refrigerator (underneath the drawers) looks as if it had never been cleaned; this one was going to take time to clean (at least three to four hours of serious elbow grease). Then we checked the burners of the stove and they seem to be in good working condition. We are excited about this stove because food cooked by gas stoves seem to taste better than food cooked by electrical stoves (that is just how we feel). We did not run the dishwasher, we had no reason to at the time, no dishes, yet. Anyway the landlord said, she never used it because she lived alone, didn't have a lot of dishes to wash. We believed her and assumed it worked. Why would she lie to us? Then we opened up all the cabinets and discovered many missed items, we boxed them and placed them in the attic for our landlord to pick up. We then turned on the water and got sprayed from the water purifier, which was exciting. The sprayer had to be removed. Upon removing it we noticed it had mold, so we disposed of it, and replaced it with a regular aerator.
Then we opened up the windows in the kitchen and found mold and discoloration on the trim. We took pictures and then checked other windows; they were also discoloring, molding and rotting. We didn't know if this could be fixed; we would have to look it up.The kitchen bay window on the (east) right side had a broken closing mechanism, cannot open the window to full extension, or the mechanism separates from the window. Screen also has multiple holes. Looking at the kitchen floor, we noticed stains, dings, and dents. Along with a few centipedes, and a couple of potato-bugs. Bugs will have to be taken care of right away, because we have a very low tolerance for bugs, especially our youngest daughter. Upon an initial view of the kitchen walls – they seemed fine, no glaring holes or other problems. Although looking at the dining room walls, we asked the question, “who moved her, the CareerBuilder.com monkeys (well, okay, chimps)? They were marked up with dirty pencil marks and small holes.

By this time my husband and I were remembering the movie The Money Pit with Tom Hanks (Walter) and Shelley Long (Anna), when Walter said, “Ahh, home crap home!” And we haven't even gotten to the good stuff yet...Want to see why my daughter could never sneak out of her room at night? See more tomorrow.

Here's something novel; writing about this is helping reduce the hatred demon. Like Shrek in the movie Shrek (played by Mike Myers) always says, “Better out than in, I always say.”


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Friday, June 15, 2012

Daily Mood Quote

 
“With friends like that, who needs enemies”
~Unknown Author

I have been seriously considering quitting the daily mood quotes blog. Erasing it, because I am struggling to find the peace and happiness that once came so easy for me. Recent events in my life have caused me to be battling the “hatred demon” that is in all of us. It can not be denied and can only be destroyed when one forgives the awful people they have encountered in their world. There is a saying that states, “With friends like that, who needs enemies” I don't know who said this; but I wonder, did they have “friends” like I have run into? Oops, did I say that out loud? You bet I did and here is why, I am pissed and frankly sick and tired of mean people and “dag nab-it,” why do I keep running into them. Are there any honest people out there anymore? I wonder that, because recently I have been evicted from my home, not because I couldn't make the mortgage, but because I couldn't pay the rent. Why you may ask. My husband and I both had lost our jobs during the recession (that is in earlier blogs). OK short version: My husband's boss took government loans and spent them on himself, then got caught, company closed, goodbye job. I lost mine in an acquisition where 5,300 jobs, including mine, were cut. It was rotten, downright miserable as our reserves were drained and things kept costing more.

So, from the movie Network as Howard Beale played by the late Peter Finch said, “I don't have to tell you things are bad. Everybody knows things are bad. It's a depression. Everybody's out of work or scared of losing their job. The dollar buys a nickel's worth, banks are going bust, shopkeepers keep a gun under the counter. Punks are running wild in the street and there's nobody anywhere who seems to know what to do, and there's no end to it. We know the air is unfit to breathe and our food is unfit to eat, and we sit watching our TV's while some local newscaster tells us that today we had fifteen homicides and sixty-three violent crimes, as if that's the way it's supposed to be. We know things are bad - worse than bad. They're crazy. It's like everything everywhere is going crazy, so we don't go out anymore. We sit in the house, and slowly the world we are living in is getting smaller, and all we say is, 'Please, at least leave us alone in our living rooms. Let me have my toaster and my TV and my steel-belted radials and I won't say anything. Just leave us alone.' Well, I'm not gonna leave you alone. I want you to get mad! I don't want you to protest. I don't want you to riot - I don't want you to write to your congressman because I wouldn't know what to tell you to write. I don't know what to do about the depression and the inflation and the Russians and the crime in the street. All I know is that first you've got to get mad. You've got to say, 'I'm a HUMAN BEING, God damn it! My life has VALUE!' So I want you to get up now. I want all of you to get up out of your chairs. I want you to get up right now and go to the window. Open it, and stick your head out, and yell, 'I'M AS MAD AS HELL, AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!' I want you to get up right now, sit up, go to your windows, open them and stick your head out and yell - 'I'm as mad as hell and I'm not going to take this anymore!' Things have got to change. But first, you've gotta get mad!... You've got to say, 'I'm as mad as hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore!' Then we'll figure out what to do about the depression and the inflation and the oil crisis. But first get up out of your chairs, open the window, stick your head out, and yell, and say it: "I'M AS MAD AS HELL, AND I'M NOT GOING TO TAKE THIS ANYMORE!” Glad I got that out; I feel better. How about you?

Funny thing, the landlord knew what was happening, we kept her informed of this. We told her and her response was, “Don't worry about it, look after the kids; I'll just be receiving checks from you well into my retirement.” She changed her mind. Let me be clear about one thing; It doesn’t bother me that she changed her mind, life happens and things change... its the way she handled it that bothered us. Actually, it was deliberately hurtful and vindictive, very, very, hurtful. Back to mad as hell, hurt and frustrated.

Let's back up a little, you see nearly three years ago, my husband and I and our children where living in an apartment. It was nice and we were happy there (however, many of our friends were embarrassed because we “lived” in an apartment). We were also healthy there. But a friend of ours who owned a home was moving, she got a job down south and wanted to rent out her home. She called us and in June nearly three years ago, we went to view the house. It was okay, a three bedroom ranch in what seemed to be a quiet neighborhood. She wanted a little too much money for the place, but we could tighten our belts and make it work. She dangled words like, “you can make it your own” “you can paint it” just take care of my house. There was no rental agreement, no hand-shake, no documentation, no formal walk-through, nothing. Just an amount and her bank deposit slips. We thought it a little weird, but she was no business woman and it showed. (Side note: What a freakin' head fake.) Her puzzling answers and vagueness to simple questions like “do the appliances work?” Left us wondering, but we “trusted” her, she was a friend. We had known her for seven years, she was like one of our family, an old aunt or something. She even babysit our children when they were younger. We had absolutely no reason to distrust her.

Several months later, we moved in, but before the first piece of furniture entered the house, my husband and I inspected the house and made a list of our discoveries... it was surprising. To be continued tomorrow, hopefully.

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Sunday, June 3, 2012

A New Beginning - June 3, 2012

"Almost everything comes from nothing."
~Henry F. Amiel~

Everyone needs  a vacation, but this one is not my idea of a vacation. Occasionally, life can suck and for me and my family right now; it does. I have received many e-mails and tweets from many readers of daily mood quotes and was overwhelmed by the volume. Thank you for reading. At this time, my family and I are on the road working towards a better life. We were pretty much driven away from our home because of unemployment. Plenty of education and training just not in anything anyone is looking to hire for in our sad sack, little, rust belt city. It's a sad story for America, but for my family and I, it was a lot more like living in a "Toxic Town."

Before we can build a life again, we must first find work, and at the same time, we must accept what happened to us. Then learn to forgive those, who with ill intent harmed us. That may take some time. It requires a bit more grace than I have at my immediate disposal right now. I have spoken about forgiveness in daily mood quotes before, but I never said it is easy. Anyway, telling the story through quotes might be fun, it may also help to ease the pain as I tell the story. 

From nothing... here we go. Remember the end of one thing is the beginning of another.

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Sunday, February 26, 2012

Daily Mood Quotes - February 26, 2012

Daily Mood Quote
Day 256 - February 26, 2012

"The greatest ignorance is to reject something you know nothing about."
~Unknown Author

"Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn."
 ~Benjamin Franklin

How much and how many are overlooked due to lack of understanding, or the refusal to learn?

I'll be back on March 1, 2012 and I've got a lot to talk about.
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Saturday, February 25, 2012

Daily Mood Quotes - February 25, 2012

Daily Mood Quote
Day 255 - February 25, 2012

Peace is not something you wish for: It's something you make, Something you do, Something you are, And something you give away."
~Robert Fulghum

So why do we use violence, threats and control tactics to gain peace? Gandhi said, ""Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances."

I'll be back on March 1, 2012 with more in depth daily mood quotes, movie quotes and DMQ insights. 

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Friday, February 24, 2012

Daily Mood Quotes - February 24, 2012

Daily Mood Quotes
Day 254 - February 24, 2012

Endurance is the crowning quality, And patience all the passion of great hearts.
~James Russell Lowell

Patience is stronger than force.
~Edward Counsel

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Thursday, February 23, 2012

Daily Mood Quotes - February 23, 2011

Daily Mood Quotes
Day 253 - February 23, 2012

"Lord make me an instrument of your peace; where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; and where there is sadness, joy."
~St. Francis of Assisi

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