Showing posts with label Social Networking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Social Networking. Show all posts

Monday, December 12, 2011

Daily Mood Quotes - December 12, 2011

Daily Mood Quotes
Day 220 – December 12, 2011

“A system is a network of interdependent components that work together to try to accomplish the aim of the system. A system must have an aim. Without the aim, there is no system.”
~W. Edwards Deming

Now all we need to do is add an “ing” to the word network and the connotation changes. A recent conversation with a friend reminded me “that it isn't what you know, but who you know. You have to network, networking is how people get jobs.” Okay, can someone tell why I have spent nearly six years in college to earn a Bachelor's and Master's Degrees? Should I drop out now? Or, maybe I should change my major to include classes like, butt-kissing-101, how to schmooze your abusive boss-201, or, how to get a raise by learning to play golf-301. Tell me my friends what is broken about this “system?”

So it follows, that the best people for the job, apparently aren't the ones getting the jobs. So, why are there still colleges around, if getting a job is based on who you know and not what you know? I don't know about you, but this depresses me...aaalotttt (thank you Peanut from Jeff Dunham). I understand that people need to have good communications skills and it certainly never hurts to “play well with others.” But apparently getting work is based on being somebody’s brother's cousin's niece's second aunt's sorority friend's best buddy, or something like that. That's six degrees of separation I wish were seven! I would like to know, when did networking take the place of actual knowledge, skill and experience? As for me, my experiences in networking have all too often turned my stomach, because it requires people (especially where I live) to go out after work and drink with others they work with. And to quote Bartok the bat from the animated movie Anastasia “This can only end in tears!” A lot of gossip occurs in these outings and that's not something I want to be a part of, in the business world, or in any other part of my life. Gossip is corrosive-period. I have seen too many people's careers and lives destroyed, because of something they said or did, under the influence of alcohol. Even if you don't drink, things you say are often twisted against you in these scenarios. It's simply not worth it. There is an old saying, “With friends like “that” who needs enemies?” I guess when you have been stabbed in the back a few times, you have a cautious wall between you and unpleasant networking “opportunities.” The point is that if everyone is networking and working the system when the heck is anything useful getting done? Kind of explains one reason for a sagging economy... don't it?

So, let's talk about social networking via the internet. I belong to a few social network sites; Facebook, Linkedin, Twitter and they too have their pros and cons. First the pros; if you have something to say, you get the opportunity to say it without interruptions (that's another blog for later), and you have a hard copy of what you said, so if your words would ever be twisted, you have the proof you need (sad we need to think like that). And it lets people connect with others with similar interests and even old friends. That's great and I am grateful for that. On the con side; it also opens you up to bullying, and online attacks, and everything you say online can end up as public record, to use as ammunition against you by random people, human resources departments and even potential vendors and lenders. Plus, there is the ever present specter of identity theft. Additionally, I have found that many human resources managers and executives hide behind the digital wall to exclude quality candidates from positions they are eminently qualified for, except for when they are someone's brother's, sister's cousin's niece’s nephew, who is looking for a job. Oooops sorry, that only happens here. Best to tread lightly through the digital minefield.

The point is, if we do not begin to assess people by what they know and how much they care, we run the risk of being at the mercy of people who may network great, but can't, or won't work worth a darn. Wrong skill set. Wrong attitude often leads to lost profits and high turnover. Erica Albright (played by Rooney Mara) said it best when she said to Mark Zuckerberg (played by Jesse Eisenberg) in the Movie The Social Network, “I'm sorry you are not sufficiently impressed with my education.” I guess I just don't get it. Hiring a “network friend” is like hiring family, it's just bad business. Didn't former President George W. Bush hire many of his friends? See where that got us! Hmmm, enough said.

How will you view networking today?

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Saturday, August 13, 2011

Daily Mood Quote - August 13, 2011

 
Daily Mood Quotes
Day 102 – August 13, 2011

It's not what you know, but who you know that makes the difference
~Anonymous

A quote I believe may have some validity. I have a college education, I'm a veteran, I have a good work history and I have a solid foundation of morals and values. Unfortunately, that's not what is considered when looking for a job today. As stated in previous blogs, I didn't grow up here, didn't go to a local high school and I am not related to anyone here and that is a priority and a criteria in the hiring process. In my opinion, that is sad and destructive business practices. If you only hire those you know, then you are missing out on those who know.

It isn't just what you know, and it isn't just who you know. It's actually who you know, who knows you, and what you do for a living.
~Bob Burg

You can make horseshoes all you want, it doesn't mean you can have a successful career at it. Unfortunately, we have an entire generation of people over forty, who have been caught mid-career in the digital transformation of the world. Their skills sets, though completely valid, no longer apply and consequently they are the ones who are having the greatest difficulty finding and holding onto work in this economy. Those who are fortunate enough to have jobs in this age bracket, are holding on to them for dear life, movement has all but ceased. It gives new meaning to butt kissing and social networking. Part of the networking game that is played today is “Get something on someone” that helps you keep your job. That may have always been the case, but now it works at a whole new level and far beyond what we have ever seen before. I believe it will only get worse before it gets better. Don't believe me? Ask those over forty who are unemployed. And humble, dedicated, honest service?...it doesn't stand a chance. Its the fastest way to get shoved to the bottom of the list.

The successful networkers I know, the ones receiving tons of referrals and feeling truly happy about themselves, continually put the other person's needs ahead of their own.
~Bob Burg

Where are these people? In my experience in corporate America, this is simply not true. It has been my experience that networking only works when people think they can get something from you. When I was working, I had a lot of friends, coworkers that called themselves my friend, neighbors who were friends and people I socialized with, who called themselves my friends. Now, I'm unemployed (and am not in a position to facilitate their goals). So, were are my friends? They have scattered like ragweed pollen in the wind. Unseen, unheard, yet creating misery as they go. I understand that around here, that's not uncommon. It's as if “you” have the contagious disease. In reality it's the infection of self-centered thinking that causes the suffering. When my husband and I go to places we use to go, where our “friends frequent,” backs are turned and exits made. We haven't changed, just our ability to “do something for them” via our jobs. That's a sad...but completely true assessment of the human condition. You can't network with people who don't want you around...unless they can gain something from it.

Tess McGill (played by Melanie Griffith) said it best in the movie Working Girl, when talking to Philip Bosco (Oren Trask) “You can bend the rules plenty once you get to the top, but not while you're trying to get there. And if you're someone like me, you can't get there without bending the rules.” Talk about a double edge sword.

Networking is another euphemistic phase for working the system and taking advantage of others. But its the way things are done. Sorry, no positive spin today, just my somewhat sour mood this morning. I hope it changes. There is always hope.

How will you view others today?

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