Daily Mood Quote
Day 16 – May 20, 2011
Learning to trust is one of life's most difficult tasks.
~Isaac Watts
This quote comes because of a story my husband shared with me this morning. A local radio station ask the question, “Should woman allow men to change their baby girl's diapers?”
Well, I have several schools of though on this: First, what in the hell has gone wrong with our society? I don't pretend to have the answers, but I wonder if there isn't something in the water here? Overwhelmingly, (10 to 1 ratio), woman said, “No I would not let my husband change our daughter's diapers.” WHAT??? I have grown children now, so diaper changing isn't a part of our life anymore (until the grandchildren arrive, then pappy’s changing diapers). However, I was tripping the light fantastic when my husband took the lead on the care of our children when they were young, including diaper changing. It meant I got a break.
So, the question is, “Why do these woman think like this?” Is it they don't trust their husband to do a good job? This is reasonable, because sometimes guys can be ham handed (clunky). When my husband listened to this story and upon hearing the women's comments, his first thought was, “Do they (woman) think that all men are recalcitrant pervs?” I understand the media has really beat that drum for the last couple of years and public awareness is riding very high. But really, dad's now can't change their own children's diapers? Again, What??
In the movie, Three Men and Baby with Tom Selleck, Steve Guttenberg and Ted Danson, the baby was a little girl and the men were all working professionals, single and no children ,or experience (or so they thought). Mary arrived on the doorstep and life became chaotic. While they were squeamish about changing a diaper, I don't remember anybody getting up and leaving the movie theater because men were changing a diaper, it was actually funny! But, I do remember Tom Selleck saying “I'll pay you $1,000 to change the diaper.” Has society really changed that much in 24 years? I don't think so. I do believe we can be so overwhelmed by the negative, that we forget the positive and we begin to doubt even ourselves and good judgement. Trust has to start with ourselves. When self doubt creeps in, it tends to overflow common sense and drown out the voice of reason. Then emotions and fears take over.
Married life is all about teamwork. That includes changing diapers, cooking and cleaning. We are all equal and accountable for our actions. Men no less than women and women no less than men. If a man excluded a woman from a vital child rearing activity, she would scream sexism and probably a few other choice words. Seems like that might be happening in reverse these days. At least out here in the middle of the country. It boils down to trust yourself and marry someone you can trust. Well duh!
What does teamwork look like to you today?
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